We believe the behavior of your partner’s sexual betrayal is not the result of anything you did or did not do. Never the less, you have been impacted. This type of trauma betrayal wound runs deep and wide and when left untreated, the betrayed partner often carries with them emotional roller-coaster emotional states all throughout life. We understand trauma betrayal wounds – the pain, confusion, anger, disbelief, distress, hurt, insecurity, fear, uncertainty, anxiety, as well as the loss of relational safety and stabilization
Dr. Barbra Steffens reports, "The initial trauma for partners of sex addicts is often the day they discover they are living with a stranger, a stranger who has affairs, or illicit sex, or is pornography obsessed, who has a secret life outside their relationship. The trauma is repeated as they learn the ways their partner has and will lie and cheat to continue the addiction. Even if the relationship ends or the addict gets into recovery, the resulting partner’s PTSD is challenging to heal.
Partners of sex addicts – most often women – no longer know what is real or what to trust, their whole existence is threatened. It becomes difficult to be fully functional."
According to The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS), "Sex addiction and compulsivity is an issue being encountered within all clinical treatment settings. The wounded and betrayed partner or spouse is, in many settings, the primary patient/client seeking effective assistance and treatment. Over the past several years, there has been a move toward utilizing a trauma perspective in treating the traumatic impact of sex addiction upon the partner or spouse. This is the essential difference from the historical sex addiction models that emerged in the 1980s."
Many of our therapists are trained and certified by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) and as such have specific education and training as a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). Start your healing journey today by taking the first step - Call NorthPoint.